Saturday, February 25, 2012

Here's the deal

OK so here's the deal: I have decided that instead of being obsessed with TRYING to make new friends, I'm going to just go to whatever I'm invited to or find online, and if I find someone nice, great; but if not, that's OK too. So far I've met or reconnected with three or four people whom I'd like to hang out with.

I'm interested to observe people whom I think do a good job at being with other people and making connections. Willee, who unabashedly invites people to events that she thinks are interesting or in which she is involved; if they want to come, great--if not, that's OK too. Susan, who is so friendly and not afraid to talk (like I am, in case someone thinks I'm not interesting), and also generously reached out to invite me to play tennis. Carol, who I met and connected with, but who was the one who followed up to do something else (and inspired me to invite her to something too).

I'd like to learn to be open and chatty and not be concerned that people won't think I'm interesting or nice. To do this, I think one has to be open to rejection. Trying too hard doesn't work. It's hard, but one has to be oneself. Haha how do you do that??

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